WAYS WE CAN IMPROVE OUR MARRIAGES & MAKE THEM SHINE FULL
1.
Upon returning home find her first before doing
anything else and give her a hug
2.
Ask her specific questions about her day that
indicate an awareness of what
She was planning to do (e.g’ “how did you appointment with the doctor go?’’)
She was planning to do (e.g’ “how did you appointment with the doctor go?’’)
3.
Practice listening and asking questions
4.
Resist the temptation to solve her problem
empathize instead
5.
Give her twenty minutes of unsolicited, quality
attention
(Don’t read the newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this
time).
6.
Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as
on special occasion
7.
Plan a date several days in advance, rather than
waiting for Friday night and asking her want she what to do.
8.
If she generally makes dinner or if it is her
turn and she seems tired or really busy, offer to makes dinner.
9.
Compliment her on who she looks.
10.
Validate her feeling when she is upset.
11.
Offer to help her when she tired.
12.
Schedule extra time when traveling so that she
doesn’t have to rush.
13.
When you are going to be late, call her and let
her know.(poor time)
14.
When she asks for support, say yes or on without
making her wrong for asking
15.
Whenever her feeling have been hurt ,give her
some empathy and tell her “l’m sorry you
hurt “then
be silent ,let her feel your understanding of her hurt .don’t offer solutions or explanation why her hurt is not your fault .
be silent ,let her feel your understanding of her hurt .don’t offer solutions or explanation why her hurt is not your fault .
16.
Whenever you need to pull away , let her know
you well be back or what you need some to think about the things.
17.
When you have cooled off and you come back ,talk
about what was bothering you in a respectful ,no blaming way, so she
doesn’t imagine the worst .
18.
Offer to build
a fire in wintertime.
19.
When she talks to you, put down the magazine or
turn off the tv and give her your full attention.
20.
If she washes the dishes, occasionally offer to
wash the dishes, especially is she is tired that day.
21.
Notice if she is upset or tired and ask what she
has to do. Then offer to help by doing a few of her “to do” items.
22.
When going out, ask if there is anything she
wants to pick up at the store and remember to pick it up.
23.
Let her know when you are planning to take a nap
or leave.
24.
Give her four hugs a day.
Give
her four hugs a day
25.
Call her from work to ask her how she is or to
share something exciting or to tell her “I love you”.
26.
Tell her “I love you” at least a couple of times
every day.
27.
Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.
28.
If she washes your socks, turn them right side
out so she does not have to.
29.
Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty
it.
30.
When you are out of town, call to leave a
telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived
safely.
31.
Wash her car.
32.
Wash your car and clean up the interior before a
date with her.
33.
Wash before having sex or put on cologne if she
likes that.
34.
Take her side when she is upset with someone.
35.
Offer to give her a back or a neck or a foot
massage(or all three)
36.
Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate
sometimes without being sexual.
37.
Be patient when she is sharing. Don’t look at
your watch.
38.
Don’t flick the remote control to different
channels when she is watching TV with you.
39.
Display affection in public.
40.
When holding hands don’t let your hand go limp.
41.
Learn her favorite drinks so you can offer her a
choice of the ones she already likes.
42.
Suggest different restaurants for going out;
don’t put the burden of figuring out
where to go on her.
43.
Get season tickets for the theatre, symphony,
opera, ballet, or some other type of performance she likes.
44.
Create occasions when you both can dress up.
45.
Be understanding when she is late or decides to
change her outfit.
46.
Pay more attention to her than to others in
public.
47.
Make her more important than the children. Let
the children see her getting your first and foremost.
48.
Buy her little presents like a mall box of
chocolates or perfume.
49.
Buy her an outfit (take a picture of your
partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it).
50.
Take pictures of her on special occasions.
51.
Take short romantic getaways.
52.
Let her see that you carry a picture of her in
your wallet and update it time to time.
53.
When staying in a hotel have them prepare the
room with something special like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice
or flowers.
54.
Write a note or make a sign on special occasions
such as anniversaries and birthdays.
55.
Offer to drive the car on long trips.
56.
Drive slowly and safely, respecting her preferences.
After all, she is sitting powerless in the front seat.
57.
Notice how she is feeling and comment on it “you
look happy today” or “you look tired” and then ask a question like “how was your
day”.
58.
When taking her out, study in advance the
directions so that she does not have to be responsible to navigate.
59.
Take her dancing or take dancing lessons
together.
60.
Surprise her with a love note or poem.
61.
Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of
the relationship.
62.
Offer to fix something around the house. Say “What needs to be fixed
around here? I have some extra time.” Don’t take on more than you can do.
63.
Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.
64.
Buy some good Super glue to fix things that are
broken.
65.
Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go
out.
66.
Help with recycling the trash.
67.
Read out loud or cut out sections of the
newspaper that would interest her.
68.
Write out neatly any phone messages you may take
for her.
69.
Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry it after
taking a shower.
70.
Open the door for her.
71.
Offer to carry the groceries.
72.
Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
73.
On trips, handle the luggage and be responsible
for packing in the car.
74.
If she washes the dishes or it is her turn,
offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.
75.
Make a “to fix” list and leave it in the
kitchen. When you have extra time to do something on that list for her. Don’t
let it get too long.
76.
When she prepares a meal, compliment her
cooking.
77.
When listening to her talk, use eye contact.
78.
Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk
to her.
79.
Show interest in what she does during the day,
in the books she reads and the people she relates to.
80.
When listening to her, reassure her that you are
interested by making little noises like ah ha, uh-huh, oh, mmhuh, and hmm.
81.
Ask her how she is feeling.
82.
If she has been sick in some way, ask for an
update and ask how she is doing or feeling.
83.
If she is tired offer to make her some tea.
84.
Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed
at the same time.
85.
Give her a kiss and say good-bye when you leave.
86.
Laugh at her jokes and humor.
87.
Verbally say thank you when she does something
for you.
88.
Notice when she gets her hair done and give a
reassuring compliment.
89.
Create special time to be alone together.
90.
Don’t answer the phone at intimate moments or if
she is sharing vulnerable feelings.
91.
Go bicycling together, even if it’s just a short
ride.
92.
Organize and prepare a picnic (Remember to bring
a picnic cloth.)
93.
If she handles the laundry, bring the clothes to
the cleaners or offer to do the wash.
94.
Take her for a walk without the children.
95.
Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you
want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want. Be caring, but
don’t be a martyr.
96.
Let her know that you missed her when you went
away.
Bring home her favorite pie or dessert.
Bring home her favorite pie or dessert.
97.
If she normally shops for the food, offer to do
the food shopping.
98.
Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you
don’t become stuffed and tired later.
99.
Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.
100.
Leave the bathroom seat down
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